Fati Abubakar slams age-shaming men, says rejection isn’t an excuse for bitterness or insults.
She urges emotional maturity, calling aging a privilege and wealth no proof of husband material.
Renowned Nigerian photographer, Fati Abubakar, has taken to Facebook to express her frustration over the trend of men resorting to age-shaming when their romantic advances are turned down by women.
In a strongly worded post on Monday, Abubakar questioned why some men respond with bitterness and insults, particularly targeting women in their 30s, simply because they declined a relationship. She emphasized that growing older is a natural and beautiful part of life and not something to be used as an insult.
“It’s strange how when you reject men, they start calling you old simply because you are in your 30s,” she wrote. “They are consistently hurling insults and bitterness. I don’t understand the age shaming.”
Abubakar described aging as a privilege that comes with wisdom, security, and the ability to make better life choices. According to her, maturity allows one to spot red flags such as narcissism and manipulation traits often overlooked by younger, less experienced individuals.
The photographer also took a swipe at societal assumptions about wealth and marriage readiness. She challenged the idea that owning a car or a house automatically qualifies someone to be a good partner. “I truly hope men begin to understand that simply because you are rich or have a house or a car doesn’t mean you are husband material,” she said.
She concluded by advising men to seek Islamic counseling to understand the true rights and responsibilities in a marriage. “No matter how much of a spec you think you are, you may never be somebody’s cup of tea,” she noted, urging self-reflection and emotional maturity in romantic pursuits.
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